A Guide To Practicing Radical Forgiveness
Most spiritualists know the importance of practicing radical forgiveness. Radical forgiveness helps them to live in peace and harmony with the spiritual laws of the universe; particularly the Law of Mind (It is done unto you as you believe.) and the Law of Attraction (You reap what you sow.).
For example, if you believe that reliving offenses is useless and forgive them, you are using the Law of Mind harmoniously. If you replace unforgiving thoughts of rage and resentment with feelings of empathy and compassion, you are sowing goodness, and are using the Law of Attraction harmoniously.
Radical forgiveness eliminates the mental minefield of unforgiveness, with its destructive fear-based, egoic emotions of shame, guilt, hate, rage, resentment, bitterness and vengeance. Internalizing these powerful negative emotions is very bad for your health.
Dr. John Sarno, in his book The Divided Mind: The Epidemic of Mind/Body Disorders, suggests that repressed emotions like guilt, hate and rage, feuled by unforgiveness, can trigger a condition called Tension Myositis Syndrome. (TMS). According to Sarno, TMS causes a systemic oxygen deprivation in the body, which can affect the back, neck and joints, causing chronic pain.
Likewise, unforgiveness may be bad for your health, according to the Mayo Clinic. Holding a grudge appears to affect the cardiovascular and nervous systems. In one study, people who focused on a personal grudge had elevated blood pressure and heart rates.
Additionally, Dr. Frederick Bailes, in his book Your Mind Can Heal You told of a patient who despised his in- laws, and dreaded walking anywhere to meet them. As a result, he developed debilitating arthritis in his knees, which was relieved almost immediately when he decided to forgive his in-laws of some old resentments.
The healing power of radical forgiveness is activated via a raising of consciousness from the fear-based level of ego to the love-based level of spirit. This is not easy to achieve, because the ego loves the fruits of unforgiveness. It enjoys being agitated, annoyed and offended, and relishes feelings of anger, rage, resentment and retribution.
A fine example of raised spiritual consciousness and radical forgiveness came from Jesus of Nazareth. During his crucifixion, he said of his killers, "Forgive them Father (God), for they know not what they do." Empathetic and compassionate to the end, Jesus knew that many people are hypnotized from cradle to grave by their personal egos and the communal ego. He realized that some folks function more comfortably at the ego level of consciousness, and he felt compassion for them.
Another great example of radical forgiveness came from the character Mack in the book The Shack, by William Paul Young. Mack’s six-year-old daughter was kidnapped and murdered. Mack blamed God and himself, and hated the killer. His paralyzing guilt, grief and unforgiveness reduced his life to ruins, resembling a rundown shack.
In a memorable passage from the book, Papa (God) counsels Mack about the meaning and mechanics of radical forgiveness:
"Forgiveness is not about forgetting. It is about letting go of another person’s throat. Forgiveness does not create a relationship. Unless people speak the truth about what they have done and change their mind and behavior, a relationship of trust is not possible.
"When you forgive someone you certainly release them from judgment, but without true change, no real relationship can be established.
"Forgiveness in no way requires that you trust the one you forgive. But should they finally confess and repent, you will discover a miracle in your own heart that allows you to reach out and begin to build between you a bridge of reconciliation.
"Forgiveness does not excuse anything. You may have to declare your forgiveness a hundred times the first day and the second day, but the third day will be less and each day after, until one day you will realize that you have forgiven completely. And then one day you will pray for your enemy’s wholeness."
Eventually, Mack learned to practice radical forgiveness and was freed from his "shack."
Accordingly, it behooves those who are spiritually aware to look past the horrors and evil of egoic hypnotism and the endless atrocities it commits against humanity, via humanity. We can then say to the ego afflicted; Forgive them, Father, for they know not what they do.
That is practicing radical forgiveness.
At the same time, the inexorable, impersonal and relentless spiritual laws of the universe are in motion, rewarding good with harmony and peace, and answering evil with justice.
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