|Local Deaths- Pat Marr|
Published: Friday, 29 March 2013 03:17
Surrounded by family, Pat passed away on Monday, March 4, at the age of 91-years-young. Born Patricia Lee Cox on Aug. 23, 1921 to Les and Beulah Cox in Ingomar, Mont., Little Patsy was the eldest, yet last surviving sibling of the three Cox children, which included Larry and Barbara.
If a biography of Pat's life were to be written, it would read like a bestseller. She was born in a tiny sheepherding town where water was shipped in by train until the late '70s. It was there she listened attentively to stories told by train passengers who passed through her father's cafe and saloon for some respite and "nourishment" on their way to — what seemed like — far away and exotic lands.
This inspired Patsy to leave home and see the world. And that she did! Beginning with her education at Lewiston Normal School (Teachers College) she met her husband of 53 years, Paul Daniel "Pooch" Marr, who had left the Navy to complete his college career and was serving as the school's boxing coach.
Upon graduation, she followed the young — now Ensign — Marr to Hollywood, Fla. where they were married. While Paul served overseas, Patsy remained stateside raising her two daughters, Barbara and Sandra, until her first tour of foreign travel led her to join her husband in the Philippines. She later returned to the U.S., gave birth to two boys, Paul (Danny) Jr. and Timmy, taught kindergarten and second grade in numerous states, and assumed the decorum role of an officer's wife. Pat loved the "wifely duty" of lavish entertaining and welcomed thousands into her home over the years.
The Marrs arrived at their last Navy assignment in Alameda in 1962, where Pat quickly became a part of the fabric of the community by joining the Board of Directors of the Alameda Little Theatre (Altarena Playhouse), serving alternatively as President and Vice-President. Her primary duty was to throw the best cast party possible and she outdid herself every time! Pat was also instrumental in bringing hearing and vision screening to kindergarteners while serving on the Lum School PTA board. For her effort, she received the PTA Council's Founders Day Award. Pat began her Alameda teaching tenure in the Head Start pre-school program and ended it at Woodstock Elementary before transferring to the Oakland Unified School District.
Bitten by the travel bug, she spent school breaks and summers traveling up until her retirement in 1981. Her countless trips included visiting China when it first opened up to Western tourism.
Upon retirement she became a full-time travel agent with Supreme Travel in San Francisco, leading groups to the pyramids in Egypt by camelback, to the jungles of Thailand atop elephants, and to the Blarney Castle in Ireland, where she hung upside down to kiss the legendary Blarney stone. When she stopped globetrotting for a week or two, Paul would greet her with open arms and credit card bills in hand. He said that following her card activity was this only way he could keep track of her — similar to a modern-day GPS! Paul's overseas duty cured his travel bug, so he was content to live vicariously through his wife while reporting on her pursuits in his monthly "p-grams."
After Paul's passing in 1996, Pat adopted his love for the sea and began arranging cruise vacations for her friends and clients. Her brother Larry became her constant traveling companion who, according to her, often stole her thunder with his joke-telling skills. Pat continued to travel late into her 80s and found a new audience for her stories at the Encinal Yacht Club and Alameda Elks Lodge, where she made many new friends.
Pat lived every day as if it were her last. She was often heard to chant this toast, or at least try to do so: "Here's to it and to it again. If you don't do it, when you get to it, you'll never get to it, to do it, again!"
Patricia was pre-deceased by her husband, Paul, and daughters Barbara Ann and Sandra Jean. Pat is survived by her eldest son, Paul Daniel Jr. of Sun Valley, Nev., and youngest son Tim and his wife, Jeni of Alameda. She was adored by her loving grandchildren, Desiree' Marr of Alameda, Danielle Granderson (Damien) of Los Angeles, Dylan Marr of Alameda, Cameron Page (Hannah) of Brooklyn, N.Y., and Aaron Page (Daria) of Washington, D.C. Beloved "g-gma" of Elliot, Albie Mose and Colette (Coco). She leaves numerous nieces and nephews in the Boise and Billings area as well as countless friends.
In lieu of flowers, it is requested that a donation in Pat's name be made to the Alameda Education Foundation Adopt-A-Classroom Fund.
Private interment will be held at Golden Gate National Cemetery, San Bruno, and "A Celebration of Life" to be held at a later date. For further information, please contact, Harry W. Greer, Funeral Director (FDR-745)
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